Let’s rewind about a year ago. I really didn’t like myself; I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, I didn’t like what people thought of me, and I especially didn’t like where I was headed within relationships. Since I thought so lowly of myself, I allowed others to treat me like crap. I convinced myself that it was normal for someone to constantly put you down and criticize you. I thought it was a regular situation for the person you date to make fun of your sense of humor, opinions, laugh, everything. I became so obsessed with wanting to make other people happy that I had severe anxiety at the thought of disappointing someone. I was terrified to express my own thoughts and if I did, I would get sick over the anxiety of the situation.
Fast forward to August. Worst breakup of my life, by far. Yet in that separation, I learned to love myself and put myself first. Now, I am happy. Do I get stressed out? Hell yeah. Do I still get upset? Obviously. But every single day I wake up and know that even if no one else loves me, I will always love myself.
What did I do?
I cut out the negatives in my life. Specifically, relationships. Apple did an amazing thing when they created the block option. Does a friend make you feel bad about yourself? Does someone put out negatives vibes? CUT THEM OUT. I now have the thought process of cutting someone out if they don’t make me feel like a better person. This small little thing changed my daily anxiety and self love. Like, think about it. When you go to work every day and have a horrible person as a boss or co-worker, you end up hating the job because of that one person. It’s the same with a relationship; that person will end up making you hate yourself AND them. Cut things out while you can still be on good terms, if you must.
Find a hobby you love. Find something that ONLY brings you happiness. For me, it’s makeup and reading. Dive into your passions and soak up everything you can about those things. Whenever you need some self love or time to unwind, do those things.
Put yourself first. Now, I don’t mean to be extremely selfish. But when need be, be a little selfish. Don’t do things you don’t like. If you don’t want to go to dinner with a bunch of friends and want to stay in and watch the Bachelor, do that. If you don’t want to go drink, stay home. Put your own feelings and wants first.
Look good, feel good. I always feel better after a fresh face of makeup and my hair done. So, when I’m feeling shitty, I do a new look. Look your best and you’ll get confidence!
Do you love yourself? Leave me a comment below saying why or why not.