My Love Motto

Hey, guys!!! For those of you that are new, my name is Felly Bee and I love Sweet Tart Ropes. Today I am going to talk to you guys about my life motto when it comes to the love bug.

So, back story. My mom met Dan, my step-dad, like a million years ago. Ok, not really that long ago. Maybe more like 13? I’m not completely sure. Dan made me the “high maintaince” girl I am today – he bought me my first designer perfume when I was 12 and my champagne taste hasn’t changed (damn, beer budget).

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Boutique Owner & Lady Boss Amy DeFauw

Hey, guys!!! We are for another Lady Boss Sunday!!! Nothing like reading about an incredible boutique owner to get your week off to a motivating start, right? I met Amy almost a year ago thanks to my wonderful friend, Cory. If you don’t remember, Cory and his mother run Designs on the Boulevard, one of my favorite shops in Geneseo. Amy was one of the wonderful people who put on the Tastemaker’s Tea event I attended last year. She has impeccable taste and had the most beautiful, gold silverware at the event.

Give my readers a fun, little intro about YOU.

Hi everyone!  My name is Amy DeFauw and I am the owner of Katsch. A lifestyle boutique located in Geneseo, IL. We carry a variety of products including women’s clothing, accessories, home decor & gifts.

I opened Katsch in the fall of 2015 and absolutely love it! My heart is in the retail industry. Prior to opening my business I spent 7 years as a Buyer at a major department store.  I truly value my time and experience at that company.  I worked with so many wonderful people, learned a ton about the retail industry and learned the value of working with people and being a professional. (“being a professional” may sound silly but trust me, it is VERY important).

While Katsch takes up the majority of my time & thoughts, life will soon change.  My husband and I are expecting our first child at the end of May.  A sweet little boy will soon fill our lives with so much joy.  I’m very excited but to be honest also a little nervous about balancing it all!

What are you the lady boss of and why is that special to you?

Katsch is special to me because it is the realization of a dream and proof you can do anything you set your mind to.

Do you have a mirror message (shoutout to the Lady Gang!)?

Work hard and be kind.

What has been the biggest struggle in your career up until now? What about your personal life?

My biggest struggle (both personally & professionally) was giving up a safe and secure job I loved & excelled at to start something completely new.  My husband and I made the decision to leave Wisconsin and move “back home” so we could be close to family.  At first the decision seemed easy, of course I want to to raise my children around our families.  Of course I want to see my nieces & nephews any day I choose.  That part was easy. Leaving was the hard part.  I built a life in Milwaukee.  A career I was proud of, friends I loved and and a culture I identified with. It took me over a year to finally work up the courage to quit my job, move home & begin the next stage of my life.

Looking back I know I made the right choice.  Change is never easy but I learned to look at the reason WHY I was making the change.  To me, family is number one so whenever I doubt whether or not I made the right decision I’m quickly reminded I did.  If your priorities are in line, everything else will fall into place.

Do you find being a woman in your expertise is hard? How do you overcome rough patches with men/women?

Being a woman in the retail industry is very common so I don’t find it difficult.  Whenever I face obstacles with others I remind myself to act as a professional & with integrity.  At the end of the day, regardless if you are right, it’s always best to take the high road.  Don’t let others drag you into the mud.

Do you use a planner? Which one?! How often?! Do you glam plan?

Yes, of course! I could not function without one! I use the Start Planner thanks to Miss FellyBee!  In my world each day is very different and I have so many little “to-do’s” it is easy to forget about long term goals.  The Start Planner is a great tool to keep you focused on long term goals while balancing  short term tasks. I’m afraid its not very glamorous though.

What do you do to relax and unwind?

Typically I pour a glass of wine and just hang out with my husband.  I’ve been on a wine hiatus for 6 months so I’ve been indulging in ice cream instead. 🙂

If you could give one piece of wisdom to my readers, what would it be?

Focus on the positive!  Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up and inspire you to be your best.  Keep moving forward and forget about the negative.  Jealousy and other negative external influences will always exist so it is important to focus on you and the positive things happening in your life.  Celebrate your accomplishments and those of others as if they were your own!

I hope you guys enjoyed getting to know Amy!

Keep up with all the fun things happening at Katsch!

You can follow us on

Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/shopkatsch/

Instagram @shop.katsch

Shop online at www.shopkatsch.com

Store address: 113 N State St. Geneseo, IL

Photos are from Kristin Cadwallader of Bliss at Home! They look awesome.

How To Love Yourself

Let’s rewind about a year ago. I really didn’t like myself; I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, I didn’t like what people thought of me, and I especially didn’t like where I was headed within relationships. Since I thought so lowly of myself, I allowed others to treat me like crap. I convinced myself that it was normal for someone to constantly put you down and criticize you. I thought it was a regular situation for the person you date to make fun of your sense of humor, opinions, laugh, everything. I became so obsessed with wanting to make other people happy that I had severe anxiety at the thought of disappointing someone. I was terrified to express my own thoughts and if I did, I would get sick over the anxiety of the situation.

Fast forward to August. Worst breakup of my life, by far. Yet in that separation, I learned to love myself and put myself first. Now, I am happy. Do I get stressed out? Hell yeah. Do I still get upset? Obviously. But every single day I wake up and know that even if no one else loves me, I will always love myself.

What did I do?

I cut out the negatives in my life. Specifically, relationships. Apple did an amazing thing when they created the block option. Does a friend make you feel bad about yourself? Does someone put out negatives vibes? CUT THEM OUT. I now have the thought process of cutting someone out if they don’t make me feel like a better person. This small little thing changed my daily anxiety and self love. Like, think about it. When you go to work every day and have a horrible person as a boss or co-worker, you end up hating the job because of that one person. It’s the same with a relationship; that person will end up making you hate yourself AND them. Cut things out while you can still be on good terms, if you must.

Find a hobby you love. Find something that ONLY brings you happiness. For me, it’s makeup and reading. Dive into your passions and soak up everything you can about those things. Whenever you need some self love or time to unwind, do those things.

Put yourself first. Now, I don’t mean to be extremely selfish. But when need be, be a little selfish. Don’t do things you don’t like. If you don’t want to go to dinner with a bunch of friends and want to stay in and watch the Bachelor, do that. If you don’t want to go drink, stay home. Put your own feelings and wants first.

Look good, feel good. I always feel better after a fresh face of makeup and my hair done. So, when I’m feeling shitty, I do a new look. Look your best and you’ll get confidence!

Do you love yourself? Leave me a comment below saying why or why not.

Love you!!!

Miriam Bulcher | Lady Boss of the Week

Hi, guys!!! As many of you may know, I am all about women empowerment and women helping other women, not pushing them down. I thought starting a series to highlight the women that are rocking their own business, career, or just life would be amazing for us to all learn about. I hope this series inspires you guys and helps motivate you in the week ahead.

This week we are meeting Miriam! Miriam is a photographer in the Quad Cities area and is rocking it. She brings a unique spin to the photography world. Not only does she capture beautiful moments in weddings, but she also does portraits. She gives the women a complete makeover; she does their hair and makeup to make them feel utterly gorgeous. She then photographs them in a way  to let their true beauty and personalities shine. Let’s jump into our interview.

Give my readers a fun, little intro about YOU.

My name is Miriam, I’m a portrait photographer based here in Davenport. I photograph women’s modern day glamor portraits, and this stemmed from a calling I had to really help empower and encourage the self-esteem of all women. I’m also a makeup artist too! 

What are you the lady boss of and why is that special to you?
I’m the lady boss of my own portrait business and it is super special to me because I have seen amazing transformations of women who go from not being confident to super confident at the end of the shoot. My goal is to take the fear away of being photographed and show women how beautiful they really are. 
What has been the biggest struggle in your career up until now? What about your personal life?
The biggest struggle in my career up until now has been myself and my fear. It’s terrifying pushing yourself to do things that are so far outside your comfort zone but yet in order to succeed it has to happen. The biggest struggle in my personal life was accepting that I can’t do everything and that I will have to make sacrifices for the benefit of my family. 
What would you change about your business?
Hmmm, I don’t currently have anything right now that I would change about my business! 
Do you find being a woman in your expertise is hard? How do you overcome rough patches with men/women?
I definitely do find being a woman in my expertise is hard and I know that sounds weird because I photograph women. But, the amount of judgemental looks and eyes that I’ve experienced from others has been heartbreaking, simply because what I do is so different.  I truly and honestly want to make every woman look and feel their absolute best through photography. Usually if I get a confused look or judgemental eye I just stand straight and believe in myself, not letting their questionable demeanor make question myself. 
Do you use a planner? Which one?! How often?! Do you glam plan?
I do use a planner! Currently, I’m using the colorvale planner for photographers. I like it, though there’s a lot I don’t use in it, mostly cause I don’t have the time. I use it about 2-3x a week. 
What do you do to relax and unwind?
I do youtube makeup videos to relax! As well as do my own makeup. I also love watching tv series with my husband. 
If you could give one piece of wisdom to my readers, what would it be?
My piece of advice is, you have to find your own weaknesses and overcome them if you want to build your business quickly. Understand your fears and what might hold you back, and attack the things outside your comfort zone confidently. 
There we have it! Miriam is amazing at her field! Her photography is impeccable and you guys will fall in love just as I had.
Want to follow along Miriam’s journey? Check her out here:

Your 20’s Are For Change?

When I was 18, I thought I would be married right now (probably to my high school boyfriend). Now, I laugh at the thought of one person being able to deal with me for the rest of my life. I feel like I am constantly changing – my beliefs, wants, goals, non-negotaibles and so much more.

A year ago, I just loved love. I craved to have someone I loved so deeply and wanted to spend my life with. I would push away the bad fights, second thoughts, and mixed feelings. All I wanted was to be with someone and every time I was pushed away, I wanted them more. I loved the challenge and chase.

Now, I cannot fathom the idea of constantly fighting for someones attention or respect. All I want is a mutual respect and love for someone where I know that they will still like me in the morning and not change their mind. I want someone who doesn’t shy away from a future with me and actually looks for it. I want a relationship with a person that makes me feel relaxed and not entirely anxious every day.

At the beginning of my 20’s I cared so much about what people thought of me. I wanted everyone to like me and tried too hard to please everyone besides myself. Now, I have the “I don’t give a f” attitude. I am 100% myself all the time and if someone doesn’t like it, that’s not a concern of mine.

Have you guys had a lot of life changes in the past year? Leave me a comment below letting me know what.

Love you guys!